January 13, 2025
Childhood is often considered a carefree time, but for many kids, it’s anything but that. Worry creeps into their minds, whether it’s about navigating the world safely, meeting expectations, or simply dealing with uncertainty. As adults, we might say, “Don’t worry!” but often send mixed messages.
- “Don’t worry about the cars in the parking lot, but be careful not to get hit.”
- “Don’t worry about the test, but I expect you to have a good grade.”
- “Don’t worry about who’s picking you up, but do you know who’s picking you up?”
These contradictions can make a child’s world feel more confusing, intensifying their natural anxieties.
When Worry Becomes Overwhelming
While some childhood fears, like the fear of thunderstorms, tend to fade with time, other anxieties may linger or grow. Understanding and managing worry can be a real challenge for many children, especially those with heightened sensitivities. They may need structured support to cope effectively. This is where tools and strategies designed specifically for kids can help.
Playing “What Would You Do?” can help children develop their coping skills (and increase both their confidence and yours) in their decision-making skills.
Here’s how the game works: You present a “worry” scenario and ask the child, “What would you do?” Together, you brainstorm strategies to handle the situation. For example:
- What would you do if you were scared to ask a question in class?
- What would you do if you were nervous about visiting a new friend’s house?
- What would you do if your friend wanted to play a game that made you uncomfortable?
To make the activity even more personalized, you can create your own cards based on your child’s specific worries. This empowers them to practice navigating the very challenges they face.
Blessing to add this Shabbat:
Helping Kids Build Resilience
Addressing childhood worry isn’t about eliminating fear but teaching children how to process it. By giving them tools, we empower them to approach challenges with confidence. Over time, they can learn to recognize that while worry might never completely disappear, they have the skills to handle it.So the next time you say, “Don’t worry,” consider following up with, “Let’s figure this out together.” Your guidance can go a long way in helping kids turn their worries into opportunities for growth.
Blessing to add this Shabbat:
A Blessing in the Face of Wildfires in Los Angeles
by: Rabbi Sandra Lawson
Baruch Atah Adonai, Eloheinu Ruach HaOlam,
Source of life and strength, who is with us in our struggles. May those who face destruction and loss find resilience and support. May the hands of firefighters and rescuers be steady and strong, bringing safety and hope in the midst of chaos. For the families forced to flee, may they find shelter and comfort. For the earth that burns, may healing rains fall swiftly. Blessed are You, Eternal One, who fills hearts with courage and communities with love, even in the darkest of times.
Amen
Amen
B’shalom,
Morah Raquel